It’s no secret that high paying , high-profile corporate life is synonymous to high-stress, high weight and high chances of getting a chronic disease. Many professionals contemplate early retirement ( as early as 45 ) because they don’t want the stress for too long. This in turn add to them extra pressure to earn more and at a faster rate. It’s a vicious cycle and they know it , but they volunteer into it .
It’s a common belief nowadays that you want to get out of 9 to 5 rut and stress , own a business .If you think entrepreneurship is a cakewalk , you can’t be farther from the truth . I have seen my friends working 38-46 hours non-stop on their own ventures . Not just once or twice a year , but many a times in a month .Some even have a makeshift bed in the office , to get some shut-eye in between. It’s not impossible to do this in 20’s but add to this a potent mix of coffee shots ,alcohol , weed , cigarettes and take away food three times day , 7 days a week you get 30-year-old in the body of 45-year-old. They are exhausted , drained and sometimes rich by the time they reach 30.
I have seen them ignoring their personal relationships , not meeting family or friends for months. Diwali is spent with colleagues or at office party . New year is a company affair .Add to it the pressure of marriage , children and looking perfect , specially for women.
But honestly what are our options ! I agree it is a rat race in the mad concrete jungle but what is the alternative . Go back to a small town or downgrade your lifestyle. Or get married for money ( rich groom or big dowry ) or accept that you will have a mediocre life and live with it and it’s struggles. I am not against any of these , but it won’t work for all. A person who know she can lead a large enterprise won’t be happy being Mrs. someone and attending kitty parties.
That’s when the art of rejuvenating comes handy. Sadly ,it’s not everyone’s cup of tea . In fact most of us fail at it miserably. We think rejuvenation is drinking with colleagues after 12 hours at work. we are adding toxins, stress and more of what’s not required into our body turning it into a trash bin. Is it a surprise that all we hear around us are snide remarks , sarcastic comments , negative gossip and frustrated complaints.
There is a golden rule for happy life – Don’t mix work , friendship and romance. keep them all in different pockets . when we end up with dating and making friends in Office , our 24 hours are a big blur of missing lines between all three. We are always talking about work , even with family. There is no mental break , there is no pause.
We don’t know how to relax , unwind and conserve our energies for most essential things in life so that we can excel without compounding stress. Rejuvenating is like re-starting your life’s computer with all the important stuff still saved for your use when you log in again. But to re-start you need to shut-down.
I love my job , but it is a means to an end , to the life I want. What good is a great salary if I spend my birthday in meetings , my New year with take away dinners and my holidays trying to login to my laptop to get that important email through.
So , I take a break every year , sometimes twice a year to a place where I have no internet on phone , No WiFi till I enter a coffee shop of a mall or my own hotel , only a basic phone with international calling facility is enough. I don’t carry a laptop. I disconnect !
I don’t travel with my bf or friends when I have to unwind , I travel solo as I need to shut those conversations . I need to sit down and talk to my own self about what I love doing rather than what I should be doing. I talk to strangers about their lives , collect precious new experiences and new perspectives.
I stop at random places , I relax at quiet corners , usually I just sit down or lie down for hours and enjoy the stillness of the sea or mountain stretched endlessly.I search for patterns and people in clouds and watch kids play in the mud. I aimlessly walk for hours, do yoga during sunsets and take relaxing massage almost every alternate day.
I eat what I like and try different kind of drinks , everyday trying something that I haven’t tried before. I am quite fond of watching local dance and musical performances live . If someone is willing to teach , I even learn some dance moves. Locals are best at giving recommendations for food and places to be.
I wander into old local shops in search of cheap trinkets, antique pieces with stories and for handmade silver jewelry. I love getting photographed but I keep my camera / phone away for 95 percent of time. I don’t want to live my travel through pics later.
I carry books with me almost everywhere. I end up reading 2-3 books in a week when I am travelling. Reading and walking are my greatest stress-busters.
When am back home after such a trip , I feel like a new person , totally rejuvenated and fresh.
If you are feeling tired,exhausted or stuck right now , take a short solo trip , even if it’s for 3-4 days to a near by quiet town. For more tips , tricks and experiences my Ebook
Solo Indian woman traveler